Richard Delany

This is an author of some books I desperately need to read but more importantly he was the speaker at a training I went to through DHS yesterday!

The name of this conference was Adopting Children with Complex Histories- Strategies for Parents. Sounds perfect right? Well it was! There were so many meaningful and resourceful things there for me but one stood out the most.

He used the analogy of dance. He said adopting a child with a complex history is like partner dancing in pitch dark. You and your children were taught different steps, are now partnered up and are trying to dance as one. Toes are getting stepped on, who's leading who, and a constant pushing and pulling exists. Just when you feel like you are making progress the moves change slightly.

I truly appreciated this analogy because it speaks so true to my heart and the feelings I cannot express. Anyway, more thoughts to come on this I'm sure.